I posted a picture of teeny tiny Dictator on Facebook yesterday with a note similar to the one I wrote here, expressing our gratitude to her birthparents for creating our family. 

Twenty (lovely) comments and happy birthday wishes for Dictator, and someone posted this: “Beautiful note. Happy Birthday D__. So when are they making you another one?” 

“So when are they making you another one?” 

“So when are they making you another one?” 

Are you fucking kidding me? Do you know how insanely rude and disrespectful that is? Dictator’s birthparents are not a fucking baby factory waiting for us to put in a request form for another one. 

I’m torn between saying just that (perhaps a little more articulately), and just simply deleting her comment and messaging her privately to tell her why I took it down. One way lets C & R know that I think the message was completely rude and hurtful (they’ve both commented on the thread, so may get notifications when other people comment), and one lets me tell the commenter off while still looking like a grownup.

Thoughts? Because I’m boiling over here and I don’t know which is the right answer.

(Please ignore this obligatory question mark that lets me check that “let people answer this” box: ?)

ETA: I really didn’t want that comment to sit there, so I’ve deleted it and sent a private message to the poster and to birthmom and birthdad in case they saw it before I took it down. 

ETA Pt. II: This was the poster’s response. Unacceptable.